If I Had Five Minutes With Your Neurologist, Here Is What I Would Ask
If I Had Five Minutes With Your Neurologist, Here Is What I Would Ask
Your neurologist is asking the wrong question. Here is the right one.
Five minutes. That is all I would need.
If I could sit down with your neurologist before your next appointment and ask two questions, I genuinely believe your care would look completely different walking out than it did walking in.
Today I want to tell you what those questions are. Because even if I never get those five minutes, you can walk in and ask them yourself.
First, let me be clear about something.
This is not an attack on neurologists.
I mean that sincerely. Neurologists are incredibly skilled.
They have dedicated years, sometimes decades, to understanding the brain and the nervous system.
And when you are in crisis, when you are in the middle of a level eight migraine and you need relief, they are exactly who you want in your corner.
The medications they have access to, triptans, preventatives, Botox, CGRP inhibitors, nerve blocks, have changed the quality of life for millions of women. That is real and it matters.
This is not about what they are doing wrong.
This is about a gap. A gap that I think most neurologists would actually acknowledge if we had the chance to sit down and talk honestly about it.
Here is the gap.
The question most neurologists are trained to ask is this:
What medication will manage this pain?
And they are genuinely excellent at answering it. But that question, as important as it is in the moment, is not the question that changes anything long term.
The question that changes everything is this:
Why does this keep happening?
Those are two completely different questions. And they lead to two completely different outcomes.
When you ask what medication will manage this pain, you get relief. Temporary, sometimes significant, genuinely helpful relief. But the migraines come back. Because the thing driving them has not been touched.
When you ask why does this keep happening, you start a completely different conversation. You start looking at the whole person. The inflammation patterns. The hormonal picture. The gut health. The nervous system. The sleep. The history of injuries, illness, or stress that the body is still holding onto.
You start asking what is actually going on in this specific body and why it keeps happening.
That question leads somewhere medication alone cannot take you.
Why most neurologists are not asking it.
It is not because they do not care.
It is because the system they work inside does not give them the time or the framework to pursue it.
You get fifteen minutes. Sometimes less. And fifteen minutes is enough time to assess symptoms and adjust a prescription.
It is not enough time to map your entire inflammatory picture, understand your full history, look at your hormones and your gut and your nervous system and your stress load and the car accident from twelve years ago that your body never fully recovered from.
There is just not enough time in that room.
That is not a criticism of the neurologist sitting across from you. That is a criticism of the system they are working inside of.
But here is what matters for you right now.
You are allowed to ask for more than that system is currently offering you.
The two questions I would ask.
If I had five minutes with your neurologist, here is exactly what I would say.
Question one: What is your goal for this patient?
Not what medication are you trying next. The actual outcome you are hoping for her.
Because if the answer is anything other than I want her to eventually not need this medication, I want her to get to a place where migraines are not running her life, then we are not aligned on the destination.
And if we are not aligned on the destination we are just managing the journey with no real intention of it ever ending.
The goal matters. And it should be stated out loud.
Question two: Do you have a plan for why?
Not what to prescribe if this one stops working. Why does this keep happening. What is driving this in her specific body. What are we going to do together to actually find out.
Those two questions shift everything. They move the entire conversation from what do we give her to what do we find out. From management to resolution. From this is your condition to this is what we are going to figure out together.
What I hear from women every single day.
The women who come to me have usually seen five neurologists. Sometimes ten. Some of them have seen the best specialists in the country.
And almost none of them have ever been asked those questions. Not once.
They have been handed prescriptions, had them adjusted, tried new ones, added more, and then at some point been told that this is just the nature of their condition. That this is just their life now.
I do not believe that.
What I believe is that every single woman has a specific set of drivers behind her migraines. And those drivers are findable. They are workable. And when you address them in the right order, in the right way, personalized to your specific body, things change.
What a different kind of conversation looks like.
When someone comes to work with me we do not do fifteen minutes.
We spend a minimum of forty five minutes together, and honestly as long as it takes, going through everything. What you have tried. What worked and for how long. What stopped working and when. What your body feels like on a good day and what it feels like when everything falls apart.
And most importantly, what do you actually want.
Not what do you want to avoid. What do you want your life to look like on the other side of this. What does freedom mean to you specifically. What would you do, where would you go, who would you show up for differently, if migraines were no longer the thing making every decision for you.
Because that goal, that clear and specific vision, is what we build the entire plan around.
That is the conversation I wish every woman could have with her neurologist.
And since most of them do not have the time to offer it, I created the Migraine Breakthrough® Assessment so that she can have it with me.
If you are ready for someone to finally ask you why, I want to be that person.
The Migraine Breakthrough® Assessment is completely free. It is forty five minutes minimum. It is with me personally. And it is the conversation that nobody else has ever taken the time to have with you.
You will leave knowing your specific inflammation drivers, why nothing has worked long term, and what addressing this at the root actually looks like for your body.
Not a prescription. Not a protocol designed for someone else. A real answer built around you.
Book your free Migraine Breakthrough Assessment here
Because the right question, asked even once, is worth more than a decade of the wrong answers.
Debbie Waidl is a Migraine Freedom Expert and Certified Health Coach and the founder of the Freedom From Migraines Method®. She spent ten years living with daily migraines before finding and addressing the root cause. She now helps women do the same.
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Debbie Waidl is a Migraine Freedom Expert and founder of the Freedom From Migraines Method®. She works with women in perimenopause and menopause to identify and address the root causes of chronic migraines so they can stop managing their pain and start living their lives.
Disclaimer: This article is for educational purposes only and is not medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before making decisions about medical procedures or treatments. Debbie Waidl and In The Balance Health Coaching LLC are not responsible for any decisions made based on information in this article.
